My Approach
Every couple has moments of struggle — times when communication breaks down, emotions feel overwhelming, or partners drift apart. What makes the difference is not whether challenges happen, but whether partners know how to find each other again.
My approach is rooted in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), a model that integrates attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and the biology of arousal regulation. PACT sees relationships as living systems where partners profoundly shape each other’s sense of safety, security, and belonging.
In our work together, I help you and your partner:
Understand attachment patterns and how they shape your relationship.
Notice and name emotions and understand how they signal our needs, boundaries, longings, and fantasies.
Recognize body-based cues — like breathing, posture, and tone — that influence conflict and closeness.
Practice co-regulation strategies, learning how to calm and soothe each other in real time.
Interrupt destructive cycles such as pursue/withdraw or blame/defend.
Build secure functioning patterns where fairness, sensitivity, and mutual care guide your relationship.
PACT is experiential and dynamic. Rather than just talking about difficulties, we observe and work with your patterns as they arise in session. This allows for corrective emotional experiences — moments where old cycles of hurt are transformed into opportunities for repair, trust, and deeper connection.
My goal is to support couples in creating relationships that feel safe, resilient, and nourishing, where both partners can thrive individually and together.
My approach to couples therapy is experiential and relational. That means:
We work with what is happening in the moment, not just outside the room
We explore emotional experience, not just surface communication
We focus on patterns between you, not individual “fault”
Many couples come in trying to solve arguments. Over time, we shift toward understanding the deeper emotional dynamics that drive those arguments.
PACT Couples Therapy
PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy), developed by Stan Tatkin, is a relational, attachment-based approach that focuses on how partners function as a team under stress. It draws from neuroscience, attachment theory, and arousal regulation to help couples better understand their patterns and respond to each other more effectively in moments that matter.
In PACT, we pay close attention to what happens between you in real time—especially during conflict. Rather than focusing only on communication skills, the work centers on building a sense of safety, mutual responsibility, and secure functioning within the relationship. This means learning how to recognize each other’s cues, regulate emotional responses, and stay connected even when things feel difficult.
I integrate PACT into my work with couples as part of a broader experiential and relational approach, helping partners move out of repetitive cycles and toward more stability, trust, and connection.